Monday, January 20, 2014

The SAID principle

I recently got a job as a personal trainer. Part of this job is developing workout plans to help my clients reach their fitness goals. When it comes to working out, it is important to be constantly pushing yourself a little bit past what you think you can do, and what you did the day before. If you don't push your body, it doesn't get better and you don't reach your goals. This principle of training is called overload. You load the body more than it has taken on before so that it can get better. 
The reason why this works is called the SAID principle.
Specific Adaptations to Imposed Demands.
When you demand your body to do a little bit more than it has done before, you body adapts to that workout. It rebuilds that breakdown you caused to be stronger. That way when you ask it to reach that level again, it can without a problem. That is why the pushing has to be constant. If you push yourself once, you improve a little bit, but then you stay at that level.
In one of my classes recently, we talked about this principle. And my teacher brought up an interesting point. He applied it to spiritual training.
Our Heavenly Father is our spiritual personal trainer. He has a plan for each of us, to push us further than we have gone before. To give us more than we have had before. That way we can adapt and get stronger spiritually. So that we can be refined. He has a goal for the kind of person He wants each of us to be. He sees our potential, and knows what we are capable of. He wants us to get there, and He knows the best way.
I have a couple of clients that don't really have goals. They're content where they are and just want to be fit for themselves. They don't have a vision. These are the clients that I want to push hard because they don't see what they're capable of. They way to show them is by using this SAID principle. Imposing higher demands than they have had before or thought they could go. Then after they have made improvements and saying, look this is where you were, and now look at where you are. 
The same with our Heavenly Father.
He gives us hard trials to go through and tasks to accomplish. And when we are able to worship at His feet and see His glorious face, He will show us, look this is where you were, look at where you are now and what you have done.
The trainers that are most relatable to, are the ones who have been where the client is. They have had to lose weight, they were once weak, they were at rock bottom. They know what it felt like to be there, and they know how to get out of it. 
We have that same opportunity spiritual with our trainer. Christ has felt every pain, every trial, every tribulation. He has "descended below them all" (D&C 122:8) so that He can carry us back up. He knows exactly what we are going through, "that he may know according to the flash how to succor his people according to their infirmities" (Alma 7:12). 
There is a saying that He won't give us more than we can handle. Brad Wilcox, in his book "The Continuous Conversion," challenges this thought. It isn't that he won't give us more than we can handle. We can't improve that way. He gives what we can handle with Christ. It is when we rely fully on the Lord and His atonement that we become the people that Heavenly Father wants us to be.
And just as people have a hard time achieving their fitness goals without a personal trainer with the knowledge to get them there, we cannot improve and become like Christ without relying on Him because He has the knowledge to get us there.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Worshipping dumb idols

The start of a new semester means a start of a new religion class. Which also means new knowledge and ways of looking at the scriptures. This semester I am taking Book of Mormon 2. 
This class entails a lot of response papers to teach us how to more fully study the scriptures. The first assignment was asking questions and using study aids to answer them. Each of these response papers need to be over the material that we will be discussing in the next class period. This happens to be Alma 31-35. 
Today I began to study those sections and began looking for questions to ask. It didn't take very long.
Verse 1 of chapter 31 had an interesting line in it:
"…Zoram, who was their leader, was leading the hearts of the people to bow down to dumb idols"
I stopped at that. What exactly are "dumb idols"? I had my ideas, but I wasn't sure so I tried to find the answer through the study aids that we were asked to use in class.
The footnotes told me more about idols, but not dumb ones. So did the Bible Dictionary,
But as I was searching the Topical Guide, I remembered a story that I had learned about a while ago. And I was able to find it in 1 Kings 18:17-39.
This story is of Elijah and the prophets of Baal. Elijah called upon God and He started a fire on wood that was absolutely soaked. This was done after the prophets of Baal failed miserably to get Baal to start a fire on dry wood. 
Rereading this story got me to thinking. There are lots of meanings to dumb. When we think of dumb now, we think lack of intelligence. But at the time that the Book of Mormon was translated, dumb meant the inability to speak. (Found through the 1828 Webster Dictionary) 
So the idols that were being worshipped by the Zoramites in this story were idols that didn't speak. When the worshippers of Baal tried to start a fire, they didn't get anything because it was a "dumb" idol. 
We have the amazing ability to communicate with our Heavenly Father. When we call upon His name He sends us the help that we need. He sends us fire on something that seems to have no hope. Whether that be the ability to fulfill a seemingly impossible calling. Or a job when no one will hire you. Sometimes it is just the fire of feeling His spirit comfort you when you feel beyond comfort. Our Heavenly Father is not a dumb idol. It starts with a prayer in faith, and I know that you will receive an answer.

Now after I discovered what the meaning of dumb idols, this got me to thinking how this applies to me. What "dumb idols" do I worship that prevent me from communicating with my Heavenly Father?
In this case, dumb idols aren't going to be false gods like Baal. But they're going to be things that distract me and prevent me from progressing spiritually. 
My biggest one is media, mostly TV and movies. I watched a lot of TV shows and movies last semester. Mostly because I wasn't feeling well enough to do anything else. And watching wholesome shows and movies aren't a bad thing. But I would watch them rather than study my scriptures. I could have switched a show with a conference talk. Or I could have gone to the temple instead of watch a movie. 
So I have resolved to challenge myself to do that. Study my scriptures before I log into Amazon or Hulu. Go to the temple instead of turning on a movie. Put the Lord before media. I know that I will see significant changes in myself when I do that.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

"Absolute Truths"

For one of my classes for my major, we have a series of readings that we need to do before each class so that we can be prepared for that day's discussion. This first reading has to be shared. It is the testimony of one of our dear prophets who have passed on, President Spencer W. Kimball. How amazing it is to have a prophet on the earth today and one who boldly and simply states the knowledge that he has been endowed with. This devotional has really struck a chord with me

Bad days… And how to get through them...

The last six months I have been dealing with problems with my health (I know, I talk about it a lot, sorry). These problems have led to a lot of bad days and has put my into a mental funk. Actually, I don't really know which one caused which. All I really know is that I seem to have been having more hard days than good days. While there is good in every day, I have been having a hard seeing the good, and getting away from dwelling on the bad. 
I got to spend two weeks at home and while it seemed to lift my spirits for a little while, it was really hard to come back to school. Sunday, while Skyping with my mom, I had a break down. I finally let out all of the things that I have been struggling with. My poor mom keeps getting all of my breakdowns. 
I have found when I have a breakdown it is my lowest point. My breaking point admitting that I have fallen really far. However, it is a great thing because it has always been the start of my climbing out of my hole. 
Sunday was also fast Sunday. And I usually start my fast before I go to bed the night before. Call it cheating if you want, but it is what works best for me. I knew that I needed help, that I have been trying to do it on my own and that I couldn't go anywhere with that. So my purpose this time was to ask for spiritual strength. Strength to make it through the semester. Strength to make headway in my new job. Strength to be happy and healthy. 
So let's just say that Sunday was my breaking point. And my building point. 
My mom gave me good advice, reminding me that I had been slacking on my temple attendance. And that also reminded me that I haven't been very good about my scripture study lately either. I realized that even though my testimony was still there, I was drifting away from our Heavenly Father. And that was because I wasn't doing very much to bring me closer.
The next day someone posted a picture on Facebook, unfortunately I can't find it anymore. But it was exactly what I needed to start the day and to begin a new semester. It reminded me that I could make it through my hard times when I relied on my Savior.

Then today as I was scrolling through my news feed, I saw this

Exactly what I needed to see and hear. I was reminded that bad days are there for a purpose. We are to learn and to be strengthened through it. He also mentions in that video that bad days are just that. A day. But tomorrow is a new day. We have the ability to make our days good or bad. We can choose to see the good things that happen that day, or the bad things that happened that day. Chances are there, both have occurred that day. If you dwell on the bad, then your day will likely be bad. If you dwell on the good, then you will have a good and happy day. 
I understand that there will be things that come out of left field and knock you down. Things that are out of your control and not your fault. When those happen (notice I say when, not if), then that is when you can choose to do one of two things. You can stay down, and sit in a puddle of tears and woe. Or you can do as Matthew 11:28-30 instructs: 
"Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden…and ye shall find rest for your souls."
Turn to our Savior and plead for His help. He has already felt the pain of your trial. He will take that burden, and help you through it.
An example of this happening is in Mosiah 24. While you should read the whole chapter because it gives the full story, I will only share pieces of 13-15:
"Lift up your heads and be of good comfort… And I will also ease your burdens which are laid upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs… that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions. And, now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord."
The most essential part of that passage is the last sentence. That is how we make it through the hard times. After praying for strength, we need to "submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord." 
Now, don't think that during the last six months I never once prayed for strength. I prayed all the time throughout that time for strength, but I still sunk deeper and deeper. It wasn't because the Lord didn't want to help me, or that He was angry with me or any other reason you can think of. It wasn't the Lord.  It was me. I wasn't ready to change. I wasn't ready to submit to His will. He was right there giving me what I needed, but I wasn't ready to accept it and push through and move on. I wanted to continue sitting in a puddle of my self pity, getting wet in my rain of self induced loneliness. 
Why did I get the strength that I needed now? Because I was ready. I finally decided I was going to do all that I needed to do. I was ready to do things the Lord's way, not my way. I was ready to receive it. 
I'm not saying it is going to be easy to change. The road is going to be bumpy, rocky and very uphill. But I know that I can do it. Because I'm ready to receive the Lord's help. 
Pray continually. Never lose faith. I assure you by the witness of the story of Alma's people, and by my own experiences that the Lord is there, wanting to help and be there for you. I know that He has felt our burdens and wants to carry them for us. Reach out to Him, and He will be there.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Christmas Gifts

I've been thinking a lot about Christmas gifts lately, as I am sure most of you have. I often hear about what we could give Christ for Christmas. I mean it only makes sense to give him a gift, considering it is His birthday that we are celebrating.
A lot of people ask the question, "What do I give the person who has everything?" They're really hard to give gifts. Well Christ made everything, He inherited all that the Father hath. So what could we possibly give Him?
I've been thinking about past Christmases and the evolution of them, so to speak. I remember when I was younger crawling around under the Christmas tree seeing how many presents I got and trying to guess what they are (I was always wrong). We always opened our gifts on Christmas Eve, and then Santa filled our stockings on Christmas morning. But Christmas was always about the gifts when I was younger. Which is fine. I mean, what kid isn't filled with joy to get new stuff.
One year we went Christmas caroling before we ate dinner, did a nativity reenactment and open presents. And it was torture. I had to not only wait that much longer to open gifts, but I had to go around and sing. A lot. For people. In front of people. Not my favorite thing.
The next year we went again. But this time it wasn't as dreadful. 
Gradually, as the years went on a change happened. No longer was the gifts the most important thing, although they were still a lot of fun and I was always grateful for them. But I cared more about the caroling. Shocking, I know. Don't get me wrong, I still don't like the singing in front of people. But seeing the joy on their faces and getting to serve our neighbors began to be my favorite part. And when we got done with the nativity, I wasn't dying to open gifts anymore. I was happy to open gifts and receive them, but I actually just wanted to watch everyone else open them. And see their happiness in what they got.
When my two older sisters had families of their own, our family decided to start drawing names for gifts. That first year, I felt so weird not getting all of my siblings gifts, so I still made mom buy gifts for my siblings from me (I picked them out but I didn't have money to pay for them).
When I think about all of the care I put in about the gifts that I was going to get, I realized, I don't remember most of the gifts that I got. And honestly, I probably don't have most of them anymore. I can't place the best material Christmas present I ever got (although if you really twisted my arm, my iPhone is pretty legit).
But the best gifts I have ever received in my life, Christmas gifts or not, is the gift of family ties and lasting friendship. I have screwed up a lot in my life. And I still make mistakes daily. But my family has continued to love me unconditionally and my friends stuck by me. Especially lately, when I know that I haven't been the easiest of person to be around. 
Then it hit me. I knew what I could give Christ. If the best gifts I have received from others is friendship, then I could give that gift to Christ. I have been a really bad friend lately, to Christ and to all of my other friends and family. But I still have time to change. I won't be able to do it all at once, but I can change and become a much better, dedicated friend. 
My gift is to strengthen my relationship with Christ. I want to be two peas in a pod with Him. I want to serve Him with all of my heart with no expectation of receiving anything in return. I want to share with Him all of my deepest, darkest secrets, even if He already knows them. I want to stay up late talking to Him. I want to share in joy and sadness. Hard times and elation. He knows all of my weaknesses, sticking points, and flaws, and loves me anyway. What better friend could I ask for? 
And I can do the same. 
I know that Christ doesn't have any flaws or weaknesses. He's perfect. But there is a way that I can do that. That is by being the kind of friend that He is to me, to someone else. He said that:
"Inasmuch as ye have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me."
I have been so incredible blessed with amazing family and friends who have supported me just like the Savior has done. Despite all of my flaws and poor treatment of them, they have been there for me. 
There are those who do not have the same blessing. The best gift that we can give Christ this Christmas is being a supportive friend to those that have no one. And sharing with them the friendship that Christ has to offer. 
And, like in my case, if we haven't been a very good friend, repenting and becoming better. 
If any thing, we can give Christ our efforts to become better. I cannot think of any better present to give than our friendship, our service and our work to become more like Him.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Lasting Testimony

As the semester has come to an end, I was finishing up my reading for my doctrine and covenants class, and something really struck me. 
"And now after the many testimonies that have been given of [Jesus Christ], this is the testimony, last of all, which we give of him: That He lives!
For we saw Him, even on the right hand of God; and we heard the voice bearing record that he is the Only Begotten of the Father-
That by Him, and through Him, and of Him, the worlds are and were created, and the inhabitants thereof are begotten sons and daughters unto God."
During high school, this is one of the many scriptures that I memorized. I used to read this scripture and think, "Man, I wish I could be able to give a testimony like this." Today I realized that I can.
No, I have not had the pleasure and privilege to see our Savior in the flesh. I can't say that I have seen Him. But I can say that I know that He lives. I know it. I have heard and felt the voice hearing record that He lives, He is our Redeemer, and that He is there for us. He is my big brother that has felt all of my pains, weaknesses, struggles, failures, joys, happinesses, successes and all of things that I have and will experience in this life. He knows me better than I know myself and He is always there ready to succor me according to what I need.
You may read this and think, "How can she know? Where is her proof?"
While, I do not have evidence in the way of a picture or a recording of His voice, I have two ways that I know that He lives.
He is everything that I do and in my life. He is in the smiles and hugs of my nieces. He is in the magnificence of my school and ability to learn. He is in my ability to make it through my daily struggles. He is in the beautiful landscapes and mountains that I am always surrounded by. He is in the miracle of how things will work out perfectly as they need to. He is in everything in my life. And all of these tender mercies and miracles could only come from one who has felt my burdens and has the ability to carry me through them.
The other way that I know is I searched for Him. I prayed consistently to know that He is there. I lived in a way that I would be worthy to receive an answer. I looked for His hand in my life. I studied the scriptures to learn more about Him. I really looked for Him and sought for an answer. And I received it. Not all at once, but over time. So much so that I can saw that I know. I don't just believe, I know. I know that He lives and loves each and everyone of us. I cannot deny it.
If you can only say that you believe that He is there, that is okay. It is a great start. I encourage you to seek for an answer if you don't know if He lives. Truly search out to find Him. I assure you that you will get an answer. Don't give up.
As we enter the Christmas season, there is no better time to seek for Him. It will help you to truly feel the Christmas spirit and celebrate it in the way the holiday was intended, and not how the world has come to celebrate it.


Tuesday, December 3, 2013

"Be of good cheer, and do not fear"

What could you do if you did not fear? 
What could I do if I didn't have fear?
I have been asked that question many times in my life. Usually what follows the answer to that question is, "So what is stopping you?" 
Somehow that is supposed to encourage and motivate me to accomplish those things. And it works. For about two minutes. And then my fears set back in. 
The other day I was reading my scriptures as I fell asleep because I put it off far to long. Before my eyes shut, I read:
"Wherefore, be of good cheer, and do not fear, for I the Lord am with you and will stand by you…" -D&C 68:6
Many times in my life, fear has stopped me from doing many things. And lately, it has become worse and worse. 
This verse was timed perfectly for me. Situations have come up in which I have had to say and do things that I would rather not do. I have been scared of the outcome. But reading this helped me to remember that I do not have to do these things alone. I can receive strength, guidance and help from our Savior.
He is there. Cheering us on. Wanting us to do those things that are hard, but will strengthen and help us and those around us. He stands by us. 
We do not need to despair when hard things come up. We need to be of good cheer. We do not need to fear. Our Lord is with us.